Rent A Friend

[ilphotog]

Where was this when I got married, would have saved me a lot of money and wouldn't had to listen to my ex !!!!! about everything everyday!

http://www.rentafriend.com/

[DaytonIllini]

Originally Posted by ilphotog

Where was this when I got married, would have saved me a lot of money and wouldn't had to listen to my ex !!!!! about everything everyday!

http://www.rentafriend.com/

Didn't know you got divorced brother. Sorry about that.

[ilphotog]

Originally Posted by DaytonIllini

Didn't know you got divorced brother. Sorry about that.

Freedom, Peace of Mind, Not getting treated like poo! Priceless

[DaytonIllini]

Originally Posted by ilphotog

Freedom, Peace of Mind, Not getting treated like poo! Priceless

Well don't give up on the fairer sex completely. The right chick can be a blessing. There is always the bad apple though spoiling it for us from time to time.

[ilphotog]

Yeah I only blame her as an individual, I'm more mad at myself for not following my gut instinct! I let my family and hers affect my decision to do it, never again. Plus I tell anyone I date (after 5 or 6 dates) this is what I do, I'm at a lot of sporting events taking pictures during the year, it's my business that I started and it keeps growing and bringing in more money every year (part time work for now) and I'm not giving it up for anyone, if they can understand and deal with that then fine, but it hasn't worked out that way, they are cool with it at first, but later they make me decide between the two. Well I'm still taking pictures.
So if I can find a women who loves sports, likes photography, is in decent shape, and doesn't !!!!! and complain all the time, send her my way! If not I have no problem flying solo.

[4ever]

Originally Posted by ilphotog

Freedom, Peace of Mind, Not getting treated like poo! Priceless

Sorry about your divorce though. However, sometimes it's needed and a good thing. Some times it's more harmful to stay in the marriage and play pretend.

Originally Posted by DaytonIllini

Well don't give up on the fairer sex completely. The right chick can be a blessing. There is always the bad apple though spoiling it for us from time to time.

Amen...Im extremely lucky. My wife and I are a team. Were best friends and have been together for 21yrs-married for 19yrs. I do realize though it only takes a few minutes, hours or days and everything can fall apart and your in a tail spin headed for disaster. We have been through alot this year and without her I would have been lost. She is my rock.

I will say a prayer for you my friend and hope you find happiness.

[SteveWeiss]

Originally Posted by ilphotog

Yeah I only blame her as an individual, I'm more mad at myself for not following my gut instinct! I let my family and hers affect my decision to do it, never again. Plus I tell anyone I date (after 5 or 6 dates) this is what I do, I'm at a lot of sporting events taking pictures during the year, it's my business that I started and it keeps growing and bringing in more money every year (part time work for now) and I'm not giving it up for anyone, if they can understand and deal with that then fine, but it hasn't worked out that way, they are cool with it at first, but later they make me decide between the two. Well I'm still taking pictures.
So if I can find a women who loves sports, likes photography, is in decent shape, and doesn't !!!!! and complain all the time, send her my way! If not I have no problem flying solo.

Well, if such a thing exists, it must be rather rare. Your experience validates my own. In my biased view, women are generally out for something in making a partnership with a male. Money usually comes into the equation as a deal-breaker at some point, and they so love to argue and oppose rather than to accommodate and go with the flow. A relationship often becomes a battle for dominance overtly of covertly, and either one gets steamrolled or exhausted from conflict. If one sticks to one's guns be ready for a contest; if not, you don't you are likely to be disrespected and abused. It's a no-win situation.

Now there may be mutations out there than depart from this sterotype, but they must be either already taken or hiding under a rock. Rent a friend? Sounds like prostitution without the sex. And if sex is important, be prepared to pay for it in any case one way or the other.

[BasketOfKittens]

Originally Posted by ilphotog

Freedom, Peace of Mind, Not getting treated like poo! Priceless

Amen. When I tell people that I am divorced (mine was actually annulled; it cost me a ridiculous sum of money but I had the best lawyer in NJ who tossed that out on a whim and my ex was a moron) they always say 'I'm sorry to hear that". My response is "Congratulate me". Getting to the divorce is the "sorry" part....

[BasketOfKittens]

Originally Posted by ilphotog

Yeah I only blame her as an individual, I'm more mad at myself for not following my gut instinct! I let my family and hers affect my decision to do it, never again. Plus I tell anyone I date (after 5 or 6 dates) this is what I do, I'm at a lot of sporting events taking pictures during the year, it's my business that I started and it keeps growing and bringing in more money every year (part time work for now) and I'm not giving it up for anyone, if they can understand and deal with that then fine, but it hasn't worked out that way, they are cool with it at first, but later they make me decide between the two. Well I'm still taking pictures.
So if I can find a women who loves sports, likes photography, is in decent shape, and doesn't !!!!! and complain all the time, send her my way! If not I have no problem flying solo.

My problem is that I look at everything as a competition. I hate to lose and I have to have the last word. It''s probably not shocking that I am single. But, I end up with funny experiences along the way. My new "Top Two" is that (and ilphotog you can probably corroborate this) when you get divorced, you end up doing things with your ex that you never planned on doing again. You know what I mean..

Anyway, 5 years ago I was in a bit of a drunken schtoop and called my ex and told her to come over. She said she had plans. I told her if she didn't come over that I would never speak to her again. So, 45 minutes later she is on my doorstep. The next morning she is in the shower and her text message chime goes off. What would be the proper thing to do? Ignore it. Nope. I open it up and it is from a guy that says "Good Morning beautiful, I hope you had fun with your friends last night". The ex wasn't really big on honesty. So, again, the best thing to do is ignore it. Nope. I reply "I just got done !!!!!!! beautiful and will have her out on the curb in a half hour". I went to work that morning with the uncontrollable giggles thinking that I just totally crushed her mojo with some guy and he was never going to speak to her again.

They got married last week.

Again, do you leave it alone? Nope. A friend gave me their bridal registry and I bought them all of their bedding as a wedding present. I obviously wasn't there but I just know that guy was out of his mind when a monster box from Macys shows up with all of their colors and whatever else and it is from good ol' Basket. He probably should have left her at the curb....

Love is over-rated. Revenge is a dish best served cold, and it sure is tasty.

[IntenselyOrange]

Originally Posted by BasketOfKittens

My problem is that I look at everything as a competition. I hate to lose and I have to have the last word. It''s probably not shocking that I am single. But, I end up with funny experiences along the way. My new "Top Two" is that (and ilphotog you can probably corroborate this) when you get divorced, you end up doing things with your ex that you never planned on doing again. You know what I mean..

Anyway, 5 years ago I was in a bit of a drunken schtoop and called my ex and told her to come over. She said she had plans. I told her if she didn't come over that I would never speak to her again. So, 45 minutes later she is on my doorstep. The next morning she is in the shower and her text message chime goes off. What would be the proper thing to do? Ignore it. Nope. I open it up and it is from a guy that says "Good Morning beautiful, I hope you had fun with your friends last night". The ex wasn't really big on honesty. So, again, the best thing to do is ignore it. Nope. I reply "I just got done !!!!!!! beautiful and will have her out on the curb in a half hour". I went to work that morning with the uncontrollable giggles thinking that I just totally crushed her mojo with some guy and he was never going to speak to her again.

They got married last week.

Again, do you leave it alone? Nope. A friend gave me their bridal registry and I bought them all of their bedding as a wedding present. I obviously wasn't there but I just know that guy was out of his mind when a monster box from Macys shows up with all of their colors and whatever else and it is from good ol' Basket. He probably should have left her at the curb....

Love is over-rated. Revenge is a dish best served cold, and it sure is tasty.

You know, I figured you'd have an entertaining post in this thread, but I never thought I'd read that. You are certainly an individual.


Count me in Dayton's camp as finding the right woman and her making my life better. The key, in my opinion, is finding someone of similar intelligence and drive. That my wife doesn't care about sports or various other interests of mine doesn't matter. What does matter is that she understands that some nights I don't come to bed because I'm busy working. Often times I have to work late and I can count on her to handle the children without complaining or demanding compensation - and she also being driven with her career knows she can ask me to do the same.

The problem both sexes make is thinking that it won't be a big deal that their future spouse views career advancement completely differently. It's a big reason that those that get married young have trouble - we don't know exactly who we are and can't predict where we're going when we are in our younger years.

[IlliniAmy]

Originally Posted by ilphotog

So if I can find a women who loves sports, likes photography, is in decent shape, isn't married, and doesn't !!!!! and complain all the time, send her my way!

Fixed that for ya!

[mb409]

[IlliniAmy]

Cary,

Based on your posts here and our extremely brief conversation at the Hall, you seem like an amazing guy. I'm sorry you went through a failed marriage, but happy you seem so grounded -- content to be single, with an openness to finding the right woman. You even recognize that the biggest challenge for a woman who wants a relationship with you is the amount of time you spend away from the house.

Early in my marriage, my husband worked retail management, putting in on average, 65+ hours a week, with his record being an 84-hour week once. On top of that, he tended to work late nights and weekends. Since I was teaching, our schedules didn't match up at all.

I confess, I hated it. I didn't marry him to be his glorifed housekeeper and caterer, with virtually no opportunities for us to attend signficant family events, cuddle up on the couch, or even just plain communicate with each other. However, in my case, he also hated it, so the only strain on the relationship was the lack of time we had together...not me pressuring him to give up something he loved.

As for the one or two posters in this thread who think that one gender is superior to the other, have at it. I don't know why at 39 years of age I still find myself surprised at such attitudes. There are women out there that make me ashamed of my gender, but on the flip side there are men out there that make me thrilled to only have two legs.

So long as gender-bashing is a part of the thread, let me throw in this facetious comment:

"A husband is someone who, after taking the trash out, gives the impression that he just cleaned the whole house."

[4ever]

Originally Posted by BasketOfKittens

My problem is that I look at everything as a competition. I hate to lose and I have to have the last word. It''s probably not shocking that I am single. But, I end up with funny experiences along the way. My new "Top Two" is that (and ilphotog you can probably corroborate this) when you get divorced, you end up doing things with your ex that you never planned on doing again. You know what I mean..

Anyway, 5 years ago I was in a bit of a drunken schtoop and called my ex and told her to come over. She said she had plans. I told her if she didn't come over that I would never speak to her again. So, 45 minutes later she is on my doorstep. The next morning she is in the shower and her text message chime goes off. What would be the proper thing to do? Ignore it. Nope. I open it up and it is from a guy that says "Good Morning beautiful, I hope you had fun with your friends last night". The ex wasn't really big on honesty. So, again, the best thing to do is ignore it. Nope. I reply "I just got done !!!!!!! beautiful and will have her out on the curb in a half hour". I went to work that morning with the uncontrollable giggles thinking that I just totally crushed her mojo with some guy and he was never going to speak to her again.

They got married last week.

Again, do you leave it alone? Nope. A friend gave me their bridal registry and I bought them all of their bedding as a wedding present. I obviously wasn't there but I just know that guy was out of his mind when a monster box from Macys shows up with all of their colors and whatever else and it is from good ol' Basket. He probably should have left her at the curb....

Love is over-rated. Revenge is a dish best served cold, and it sure is tasty.

I know it's the evil side of me but that is one of the funniest if not the funniest thing I have ever heard on here. Classic stuff. I'm still ROFLMAO over that one. I bet your ex hates you.

[BasketOfKittens]

Originally Posted by IntenselyOrange

You know, I figured you'd have an entertaining post in this thread, but I never thought I'd read that. You are certainly an individual.

Graciously takes a bow.

[4ever]

Originally Posted by BasketOfKittens

Graciously takes a bow.

We need to start a "Classic Basket" thread.

[DaytonIllini]

Originally Posted by 4ever

We need to start a "Classic Basket" thread.

Or 'Spookie Basket Thread'

[4ever]

Originally Posted by DaytonIllini

Or 'Spookie Basket Thread'

How about a "Gift Basket" thread.....

[BasketOfKittens]

Actually, you guys will get a kick out of this.....my ex wife posed partially topless in a magazine. National Geographic. No lie, they did a post-Vietnam war issue in the late 70's in Laos and the photographer took a picture of her at age 4 with part of her chest exposed. You have absolutely no clue how much mileage I got out of that story with her.

[SteveWeiss]

Originally Posted by IlliniAmy

Cary,

Based on your posts here and our extremely brief conversation at the Hall, you seem like an amazing guy. I'm sorry you went through a failed marriage, but happy you seem so grounded -- content to be single, with an openness to finding the right woman. You even recognize that the biggest challenge for a woman who wants a relationship with you is the amount of time you spend away from the house.

Early in my marriage, my husband worked retail management, putting in on average, 65+ hours a week, with his record being an 84-hour week once. On top of that, he tended to work late nights and weekends. Since I was teaching, our schedules didn't match up at all.

I confess, I hated it. I didn't marry him to be his glorifed housekeeper and caterer, with virtually no opportunities for us to attend signficant family events, cuddle up on the couch, or even just plain communicate with each other. However, in my case, he also hated it, so the only strain on the relationship was the lack of time we had together...not me pressuring him to give up something he loved.

As for the one or two posters in this thread who think that one gender is superior to the other, have at it. I don't know why at 39 years of age I still find myself surprised at such attitudes. There are women out there that make me ashamed of my gender, but on the flip side there are men out there that make me thrilled to only have two legs.

So long as gender-bashing is a part of the thread, let me throw in this facetious comment:

"A husband is someone who, after taking the trash out, gives the impression that he just cleaned the whole house."

Don't ask men why they think that they are superior to women. It's a fact. As to understanding women, even Sigmund Freud failed to do so. How does one understand confusion?

[BasketOfKittens]

Originally Posted by SteveWeiss

Don't ask men why they think that they are superior to women. It's a fact. As to understanding women, even Sigmund Freud failed to do so. How does one understand confusion?

Um, anyone, help me out here. I just tossed out one of my funniest stories of feigned misogyny and the Weissenheimer just blew that away in one fell swoop. I'm thankful that I am no longer the bad guy in this thread but, wow.

[SteveWeiss]

Originally Posted by BasketOfKittens

Um, anyone, help me out here. I just tossed out one of my funniest stories of feigned misogyny and the Weissenheimer just blew that away in one fell swoop. I'm thankful that I am no longer the bad guy in this thread but, wow.

Of course there are a few exceptions, but the female of the species is generally a stranger to reason. Call me bad for identifying the truth, but daily experience re-inforces this fact of life. Women have their monthly cycles, menopause, major in minors, get hysterical, want to be given extra consideration because they are females but demand equality at the same time and view co-operation as surrender. The only time that they are accommodating is when they want something from you, and they have a whole catalogue of hidden agendas.

That is the nature of the gender. Political correctness dictates that the male of the species ignore what is in its face so that men can appease the "weaker" sex. The truth is that there is a continuing contest for dominance between the two genders, and the two are not on the same page. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus, and never the twain shall meet.

[DaytonIllini]

^^^^

Wow.

Being somewhat less jaded toward women, I must admit that when I took my job the guy that hired me said something to the effect of:

Him: There were 300 applications for your position.
Me: Wow. Thanks for choosing me.
Him: Don't let it go to your head. We ruled out anyone that sounded like he might be a terrorist, everyone from the "gay states" and all the women. Finally, we ranked you by who had the shortest last name figuring we had a better chance of getting an American that spoke English. Our policy is "never hire a woman unless her ovaries are in a pan."

Now he was 60+ and is long since retired but it gave me the same feeling I am getting with the mysogeny twins.

[SteveWeiss]

Originally Posted by DaytonIllini

^^^^

Wow.

Being somewhat less jaded toward women, I must admit that when I took my job the guy that hired me said something to the effect of:

Him: There were 300 applications for your position.
Me: Wow. Thanks for choosing me.
Him: Don't let it go to your head. We ruled out anyone that sounded like he might be a terrorist, everyone from the "gay states" and all the women. Finally, we ranked you by who had the shortest last name figuring we had a better chance of getting an American that spoke English. Our policy is "never hire a woman unless her ovaries are in a pan."

Now he was 60+ and is long since retired but it gave me the same feeling I am getting with the mysogeny twins.

One may be naive when one is young, but repeated experience should put paid to such disconnects from reality.

[mb409]

Originally Posted by SteveWeiss

Don't ask men why they think that they are superior to women. It's a fact. As to understanding women, even Sigmund Freud failed to do so. How does one understand confusion?

Mrs. mb here: Aren't sources required for all facts reported on this and other boards? I guess I'm confused . . .by a guy!