I know I have shared this before, sorry, but it seems to fit here. My daughter insisted for 10 years that she was NOT going to U of Illinois. I made her promise to apply, she didn't have to visit, it didn't count against her "10" applications that Dad was paying for, I only wanted to use it to ask for other schools for additional scholarships, in state tuition, etc. After accepted in early March of senior year, "oh, by the way, I got into Illinois, I'm still not going." 2 weeks later, she learned of a ranking of universities in Chemistry (I may have shared it). Her remaining schools were not in the same zip code as Illinois. After an expletive, she looked up the Marching Illini and the Speech team. A week later, went on a campus visit with Mom (Dad wasn't allowed to go, only one I missed). They both knew instantly that it was the right place for her. She and I went on one more campus tour to another school, after a day, she said wanted to stop by the car, gave me an "I Dad" hat. We drove home. She is now a sophomore, in a leadership position on the speech team, in student government and interviewing for a research position. She found her place.