My world has been rocked

#1      
Yesterday my wife and I sat in an exam room as the doctor informed my wife she has breast cancer. I helplessly watched the person I love my than myself break down and cry. I was helpless. Her mother and sisters have all had fibrous tissue issues so that was what she expected this to be.

While we sat there stunned, the doctor proceeded to tell us what our options are. A lumpectomy followed by 6 weeks of radiation or mastectomy and who knows if she would need radiation after that.

As time went by she was able to compose herself. When all the extra tests were done we went and got a cup of coffee and talked. One of the things I mentioned was that we did not have to use that doctor and that hospital. I recommended that she look at the other facilities in the area to see if she feels more comfortable elsewhere.

I am not posting here to ask for sympathy. We think we caught it in the early. The doctor won't know for sure it this is Stage 1 cancer until she is doing the surgery. They have to examine the lymph nodes in the area before they can make a determination.

My point today is to remind everyone to speak with the families. I realize every single woman over the age of 18 knows they need to self examine. I am here to emphasis how important it is. Yesterday my wife kept telling me she feels fine. She has no symptoms. My reply was that is a good thing. If she had symptoms she would probably be in Stage 3 or 4.

Before going to bed last night I look and the Cancer Society says a woman has a 13% chance of getting breast cancer in her lifetime. The odds are in favor of the vast majority. It is very treatable. Last week I read that the success rate in Stage 1 is 99%.

For years I have been an advocate of breast cancer awareness. I've made donations. I've gone on fundraiser walks. I even have a pink t-shirt in one of my drawers. My wife has a pink Packers cap when Deanna Favre was diagnosed with cancer.

My request today is to emphasis how important early detection is. People know they should floss but don't always do it. People know they shouldn't smoke but still do. People know they should do a lot of things but it isn't always convenient. Ask them to examine on a regular basis anyway.
 
#2      

pruman91

Paducah, Ky
Hope all goes well for you and your wife , my friend...........my mom had to have some small masses removed from one of her breast's years ago so I have some experience of what you are going through.....The helpless feeling you stated was exactly how I felt when I got the news , but being the optimist that I am helped me more than anything else.......

Once again , I hope that everything turns out ok for you and your wife .......Stay positive and thanks for sharing..........
 
#3      

Ransom Stoddard

Ordained Dudeist Priest
Bloomington, IL
Yesterday my wife and I sat in an exam room as the doctor informed my wife she has breast cancer. I helplessly watched the person I love my than myself break down and cry. I was helpless. Her mother and sisters have all had fibrous tissue issues so that was what she expected this to be.

While we sat there stunned, the doctor proceeded to tell us what our options are. A lumpectomy followed by 6 weeks of radiation or mastectomy and who knows if she would need radiation after that.

As time went by she was able to compose herself. When all the extra tests were done we went and got a cup of coffee and talked. One of the things I mentioned was that we did not have to use that doctor and that hospital. I recommended that she look at the other facilities in the area to see if she feels more comfortable elsewhere.

I am not posting here to ask for sympathy. We think we caught it in the early. The doctor won't know for sure it this is Stage 1 cancer until she is doing the surgery. They have to examine the lymph nodes in the area before they can make a determination.

My point today is to remind everyone to speak with the families. I realize every single woman over the age of 18 knows they need to self examine. I am here to emphasis how important it is. Yesterday my wife kept telling me she feels fine. She has no symptoms. My reply was that is a good thing. If she had symptoms she would probably be in Stage 3 or 4.

Before going to bed last night I look and the Cancer Society says a woman has a 13% chance of getting breast cancer in her lifetime. The odds are in favor of the vast majority. It is very treatable. Last week I read that the success rate in Stage 1 is 99%.

For years I have been an advocate of breast cancer awareness. I've made donations. I've gone on fundraiser walks. I even have a pink t-shirt in one of my drawers. My wife has a pink Packers cap when Deanna Favre was diagnosed with cancer.

My request today is to emphasis how important early detection is. People know they should floss but don't always do it. People know they shouldn't smoke but still do. People know they should do a lot of things but it isn't always convenient. Ask them to examine on a regular basis anyway.
Be strong, stay optimistic, and above all be there for each other.

Your point about early detection goes for men as well. Colonscopies are a literal pain in the !!!, but they're important, and I know more than a couple of guys who've caught some issues before they became issues.

Best wishes to your wife (and to you).
 
#4      
Yesterday my wife and I sat in an exam room as the doctor informed my wife she has breast cancer. I helplessly watched the person I love my than myself break down and cry. I was helpless. Her mother and sisters have all had fibrous tissue issues so that was what she expected this to be.

While we sat there stunned, the doctor proceeded to tell us what our options are. A lumpectomy followed by 6 weeks of radiation or mastectomy and who knows if she would need radiation after that.

As time went by she was able to compose herself. When all the extra tests were done we went and got a cup of coffee and talked. One of the things I mentioned was that we did not have to use that doctor and that hospital. I recommended that she look at the other facilities in the area to see if she feels more comfortable elsewhere.

I am not posting here to ask for sympathy. We think we caught it in the early. The doctor won't know for sure it this is Stage 1 cancer until she is doing the surgery. They have to examine the lymph nodes in the area before they can make a determination.

My point today is to remind everyone to speak with the families. I realize every single woman over the age of 18 knows they need to self examine. I am here to emphasis how important it is. Yesterday my wife kept telling me she feels fine. She has no symptoms. My reply was that is a good thing. If she had symptoms she would probably be in Stage 3 or 4.

Before going to bed last night I look and the Cancer Society says a woman has a 13% chance of getting breast cancer in her lifetime. The odds are in favor of the vast majority. It is very treatable. Last week I read that the success rate in Stage 1 is 99%.

For years I have been an advocate of breast cancer awareness. I've made donations. I've gone on fundraiser walks. I even have a pink t-shirt in one of my drawers. My wife has a pink Packers cap when Deanna Favre was diagnosed with cancer.

My request today is to emphasis how important early detection is. People know they should floss but don't always do it. People know they shouldn't smoke but still do. People know they should do a lot of things but it isn't always convenient. Ask them to examine on a regular basis anyway.
Thinking of you and your wife. Glad that it sounds like they caught it early. Best wishes brother.
 
#7      
Heads Up! You and your wife Got This!! Best Wishes to your wife....she must be a strong one to have stuck with you so long.....;)
Dan can close the doors. This is the POTD. :LOL:
I've learned a lot in the past 46 years.
We met at a college mixer/hay ride 46 years ago this Sunday. She threw hay in my face. The only reply I could come up with was, "HEY!" (I know it wasn't very original but I was an 18 year old kid.) and threw some back at her.
 
#9      

band camp

STL City
My wife also had breast cancer. The cancer was caught early and 6 years later she is still cancer free.
Her treatment was radical. Double mastectomy and reconstruction. It was a long hard road, but she traveled the road with grace. She will always be my hero, as she is the toughest person I know. And soon, your wife will be too.
Just know that you are not alone. That strangers are thinking of and praying for you.
You got this.
We are Illini fans, we are tough SOBs by definition.
 
#10      

pruman91

Paducah, Ky
My wife also had breast cancer. The cancer was caught early and 6 years later she is still cancer free.
Her treatment was radical. Double mastectomy and reconstruction. It was a long hard road, but she traveled the road with grace. She will always be my hero, as she is the toughest person I know. And soon, your wife will be too.
Just know that you are not alone. That strangers are thinking of and praying for you.
You got this.
We are Illini fans, we are tough SOBs by definition.
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And proud of it !!!!!!!! ........................................ Go Illini.....................................................
 
#12      

bdutts

Houston, Texas
Yesterday my wife and I sat in an exam room as the doctor informed my wife she has breast cancer. I helplessly watched the person I love my than myself break down and cry. I was helpless. Her mother and sisters have all had fibrous tissue issues so that was what she expected this to be.

While we sat there stunned, the doctor proceeded to tell us what our options are. A lumpectomy followed by 6 weeks of radiation or mastectomy and who knows if she would need radiation after that.

As time went by she was able to compose herself. When all the extra tests were done we went and got a cup of coffee and talked. One of the things I mentioned was that we did not have to use that doctor and that hospital. I recommended that she look at the other facilities in the area to see if she feels more comfortable elsewhere.

I am not posting here to ask for sympathy. We think we caught it in the early. The doctor won't know for sure it this is Stage 1 cancer until she is doing the surgery. They have to examine the lymph nodes in the area before they can make a determination.

My point today is to remind everyone to speak with the families. I realize every single woman over the age of 18 knows they need to self examine. I am here to emphasis how important it is. Yesterday my wife kept telling me she feels fine. She has no symptoms. My reply was that is a good thing. If she had symptoms she would probably be in Stage 3 or 4.

Before going to bed last night I look and the Cancer Society says a woman has a 13% chance of getting breast cancer in her lifetime. The odds are in favor of the vast majority. It is very treatable. Last week I read that the success rate in Stage 1 is 99%.

For years I have been an advocate of breast cancer awareness. I've made donations. I've gone on fundraiser walks. I even have a pink t-shirt in one of my drawers. My wife has a pink Packers cap when Deanna Favre was diagnosed with cancer.

My request today is to emphasis how important early detection is. People know they should floss but don't always do it. People know they shouldn't smoke but still do. People know they should do a lot of things but it isn't always convenient. Ask them to examine on a regular basis anyway.

Sorry to hear about the diagnosis. I will pray for a full recovery. Keep positive. As dumb as it sounds, a positive attitude will go a long way during the recovery process. It certainly helped me during my (ongoing) recovery. And of course, be as supportive as you can. If you need someone to vent to or just want to chat, drop me a DM any time.

I agree 100%, seek a second or maybe even a third opinion then go with the highest comfort level. Also agree with your recommendation of self-examination. That is exactly how a friend found out she had cancer a few years ago. She's still cancer free after 3 or 4 years. So yeah, your wife can put a whoopin' on this!

http://www.getitchecked.com/ has good info on what should be checked, how often and at what age. Great resource.
 
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Her treatment was changed. The oncologist discussed it with the surgeon and recommended a new course of action. Yesterday was an MRI, the removal of some of her lymph nodes and insertion of a port. Next week we begin chemo treatments. Six of them over 18 weeks. When finished the tumor will have (hopefully) shrunk. That's when they will do surgery and remove the tumor. Radiation will follow if needed.
Right now we are waiting for the pathology report on the lymph nodes to see if the cancer had spread or not. Also checking out wigs. I told her to go redhead.
 
#15      

pruman91

Paducah, Ky
Her treatment was changed. The oncologist discussed it with the surgeon and recommended a new course of action. Yesterday was an MRI, the removal of some of her lymph nodes and insertion of a port. Next week we begin chemo treatments. Six of them over 18 weeks. When finished the tumor will have (hopefully) shrunk. That's when they will do surgery and remove the tumor. Radiation will follow if needed.
Right now we are waiting for the pathology report on the lymph nodes to see if the cancer had spread or not. Also checking out wigs. I told her to go redhead.
Best wishes and prayers,
my friend
 
#16      

bdutts

Houston, Texas
Her treatment was changed. The oncologist discussed it with the surgeon and recommended a new course of action. Yesterday was an MRI, the removal of some of her lymph nodes and insertion of a port. Next week we begin chemo treatments. Six of them over 18 weeks. When finished the tumor will have (hopefully) shrunk. That's when they will do surgery and remove the tumor. Radiation will follow if needed.
Right now we are waiting for the pathology report on the lymph nodes to see if the cancer had spread or not. Also checking out wigs. I told her to go redhead.
Good luck to your wife! Will pray for a successful treatment.
 
#17      

JJE

Bethalto, IL
Yesterday my wife and I sat in an exam room as the doctor informed my wife she has breast cancer. I helplessly watched the person I love my than myself break down and cry. I was helpless. Her mother and sisters have all had fibrous tissue issues so that was what she expected this to be.

While we sat there stunned, the doctor proceeded to tell us what our options are. A lumpectomy followed by 6 weeks of radiation or mastectomy and who knows if she would need radiation after that.

As time went by she was able to compose herself. When all the extra tests were done we went and got a cup of coffee and talked. One of the things I mentioned was that we did not have to use that doctor and that hospital. I recommended that she look at the other facilities in the area to see if she feels more comfortable elsewhere.

I am not posting here to ask for sympathy. We think we caught it in the early. The doctor won't know for sure it this is Stage 1 cancer until she is doing the surgery. They have to examine the lymph nodes in the area before they can make a determination.

My point today is to remind everyone to speak with the families. I realize every single woman over the age of 18 knows they need to self examine. I am here to emphasis how important it is. Yesterday my wife kept telling me she feels fine. She has no symptoms. My reply was that is a good thing. If she had symptoms she would probably be in Stage 3 or 4.

Before going to bed last night I look and the Cancer Society says a woman has a 13% chance of getting breast cancer in her lifetime. The odds are in favor of the vast majority. It is very treatable. Last week I read that the success rate in Stage 1 is 99%.

For years I have been an advocate of breast cancer awareness. I've made donations. I've gone on fundraiser walks. I even have a pink t-shirt in one of my drawers. My wife has a pink Packers cap when Deanna Favre was diagnosed with cancer.

My request today is to emphasis how important early detection is. People know they should floss but don't always do it. People know they shouldn't smoke but still do. People know they should do a lot of things but it isn't always convenient. Ask them to examine on a regular basis anyway.
I'm praying for you and your wife. I can't imagine how hard this time must be. I'm a pastor and if you ever need to talk I'd love to be an open ear.
 
#18      
I'm praying for you and your wife. I can't imagine how hard this time must be. I'm a pastor and if you ever need to talk I'd love to be an open ear.
Thank you for the offer. God bless you and your family. I'm an elder at my church. I've called my pastor many times in the past 20 years. It's a good thing to do.
 
#21      

bdutts

Houston, Texas
Chemo was 6 hours long. They didn't allow me to sit with her during the treatment.
COVID!!! might get you.
Covid could get her since she’s immunocompromised but they should let you sit with her if you were negative.

Hope she’s feeling well enough today.
 
#22      
Covid could get her since she’s immunocompromised but they should let you sit with her if you were negative.

Hope she’s feeling well enough today.
It's not for her sake but for the sake of the other patients. I understand why they feel this way but it's 6 hours. They should set it up so patients are not there alone. Of course they have the hospital staff. I'm the one in the waiting room.
 
#23      

pruman91

Paducah, Ky
It's not for her sake but for the sake of the other patients. I understand why they feel this way but it's 6 hours. They should set it up so patients are not there alone. Of course they have the hospital staff. I'm the one in the waiting room.
Do they have TV sets in the chairs or beds ??........One of my buds a few years ago had to have dialysis 3-4 times a week and sometimes I would take him .......I couldn't be with him either but he at least had a TV to watch......
 
#24      
Yesterday my wife and I sat in an exam room as the doctor informed my wife she has breast cancer. I helplessly watched the person I love my than myself break down and cry. I was helpless. Her mother and sisters have all had fibrous tissue issues so that was what she expected this to be.

While we sat there stunned, the doctor proceeded to tell us what our options are. A lumpectomy followed by 6 weeks of radiation or mastectomy and who knows if she would need radiation after that.

As time went by she was able to compose herself. When all the extra tests were done we went and got a cup of coffee and talked. One of the things I mentioned was that we did not have to use that doctor and that hospital. I recommended that she look at the other facilities in the area to see if she feels more comfortable elsewhere.

I am not posting here to ask for sympathy. We think we caught it in the early. The doctor won't know for sure it this is Stage 1 cancer until she is doing the surgery. They have to examine the lymph nodes in the area before they can make a determination.

My point today is to remind everyone to speak with the families. I realize every single woman over the age of 18 knows they need to self examine. I am here to emphasis how important it is. Yesterday my wife kept telling me she feels fine. She has no symptoms. My reply was that is a good thing. If she had symptoms she would probably be in Stage 3 or 4.

Before going to bed last night I look and the Cancer Society says a woman has a 13% chance of getting breast cancer in her lifetime. The odds are in favor of the vast majority. It is very treatable. Last week I read that the success rate in Stage 1 is 99%.

For years I have been an advocate of breast cancer awareness. I've made donations. I've gone on fundraiser walks. I even have a pink t-shirt in one of my drawers. My wife has a pink Packers cap when Deanna Favre was diagnosed with cancer.

My request today is to emphasis how important early detection is. People know they should floss but don't always do it. People know they shouldn't smoke but still do. People know they should do a lot of things but it isn't always convenient. Ask them to examine on a regular basis anyway.
Early detection is right. My wife and I just went through the exact same experience and she is recovering from her first surgery and getting ready for a second. Catching this early makes a world of difference. Stage 1 is can be addressed with surgery. While the later stages really increase the treatment and recovery.

Prayers to your wife and your entire family.
 
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bdutts

Houston, Texas
It's not for her sake but for the sake of the other patients. I understand why they feel this way but it's 6 hours. They should set it up so patients are not there alone. Of course they have the hospital staff. I'm the one in the waiting room.
That’s very strange. Edit: seems like they could/should find a balance so you and others could sit with the patients.