I don't follow this at all.
Let's say you've got multiple children. The $50K you get for Oldest Kid will substantially improve the lives of Middle Kid and Youngest Kid - you're a terrible person for taking that when everyone is (accurately) reassuring you that pretty much everyone else is doing it, too? And not just terrible, but in your eyes, worse than the people that are fueling that system?
Correct me if I am misunderstanding.
So you have some sort of contract where you get the $50K and your child gets the obligation to perform for these operators? Sounds like your stealing $50K from your child. Seems like a pretty terrible thing to do.