Have you ever dealt with an 18-year-old kid that is listening to advice from those that mainly benefit them, the adult? The majority of these kids don't have a final say in where and what they actually do. These 18-year-old kids are telling almost everyone that reaches out to them what they think that coach or recruiter wants to hear because they don't have the skillset, or ability to decide for themselves. An 18-year-old kid does not want to upset or disappoint anyone that whom they have built any sort of relationship and that is difficult for some to understand.
I deal with kids every day and those kids don't want to admit to wrongdoing, because they have a relationship with me. They will tell others and give them the ok to inform me, but it's hard for them to look me in the eye and admit guilt.
Everyone here should be VERY thankful for the info we get because they don't have to share anything and more times than not they have been dead-on in the info they have given us. The coaches are just as surprised by decisions many times as the average Joe Schmoe is when someone goes elsewhere than the beloved.
I only really believe a couple of people on here and that is because time and time again they have been correct. Even on those we think are a done deal and go elsewhere, if you follow up on information about those kids, you'll see they had people handling things for them and the kid didn't get to choose his own path more times than not. Also, many times, those kids will end up in the transfer portal sooner than later and it's best to keep relations good down the road.
Thanks to the few for everything you share with us that you don't have to