Very true. It's just very difficult to understand how he could even be in that situation to begin with. But until all (at least most) of the facts are out, it's just guessing at this point.Sometimes it's not stupidity at all. Sometimes it's a total lack of communication. If anyone has scoffed at the idea of enthusiastic/affirmative consent, now is the time to reconsider. Teaching that is the only way to really avoid these kinds of situations.
I guess we don't know how far back this relationship goes, but the fact that it happened on the road in Kansas makes one think it was short term. In which case it's stupid.Sometimes it's not stupidity at all. Sometimes it's a total lack of communication. If anyone has scoffed at the idea of enthusiastic/affirmative consent, now is the time to reconsider. Teaching that is the only way to really avoid these kinds of situations.
How he got there is easy. He's an attractive, physically cut young man with enough charisma to pull any woman he wants. I don't expect 20 somethings to turn down sex.Very true. It's just very difficult to understand how he could even be in that situation to begin with. But until all (at least most) of the facts are out, it's just guessing at this point.
Consent is even more important for a one night stand, exactly for this reasonI guess we don't know how far back this relationship goes, but the fact that it happened on the road in Kansas makes one think it was short term. In which case it's stupid.
If he brought his girl friend and then this is the result, I'd agree with your point.
You can indict a ham sandwich. Don’t have any information about whether he is guilty or innocent, but there are many reasons / motivations to bring charges, even if evidence is weak.Someone tell me how Josh and Brad didn't screw up royally here? How could any internal investigation they should have done come up with nothing when there apparently is enough to charge him with rape? I just cannot imagine what they could possibly say that could excuse their inaction up until now. Did they really put themselves in a position where there is no choice but to fire them??? I am absolutely dumbfounded.
How are you dumbfounded by "innocent until proven guilty"?Someone tell me how Josh and Brad didn't screw up royally here? How could any internal investigation they should have done come up with nothing when there apparently is enough to charge him with rape? I just cannot imagine what they could possibly say that could excuse their inaction up until now. Did they really put themselves in a position where there is no choice but to fire them??? I am absolutely dumbfounded.
Yeah, it amazes me how people think if you want to “support victims,” you have to assume guilt just because someone is charged. That’s antithetical to our legal values and basic morality, IMO.How are you dumbfounded by "innocent until proven guilty"?
Same. I was like what happened did he get caught with some weed or some traffic violation. There was no way I thought it was this bad.When I saw the title of the thread I thought maybe he violated a team rule and it would be a one game thing.
But this...this I was not expecting. Wow. No effing way.
Yeah, it amazes me how people think if you want to “support victims,” you have to assume guilt just because someone is charged. That’s antithetical to our legal values and basic morality, IMO.
The fact is, VERY few people - and I’d wager nobody on this board, even insiders - know if there is merit to the charge. The best we have is our legal system to try to get to the bottom of this, and until then it’s my firm belief Terence should be presumed innocent. That doesn’t mean this woman is “lying” or whatever; it just means she made a very serious claim, and we as a society have long ago decided such claims need to be proven. It’s not been proven, obviously.
Yes, you have to tell your children never to engage in sexual activity if there is even the tiniest bit of ambiguity about consent, and that includes cases where someone seems willing but might be impaired by alcohol/drugs or where their partner has consented to other activities during that encounter or the same activity during another encounter.Sometimes it's not stupidity at all. Sometimes it's a total lack of communication. If anyone has scoffed at the idea of enthusiastic/affirmative consent, now is the time to reconsider. Teaching that is the only way to really avoid these kinds of situations.
Regarding merit of a charge, what is the threshold? Can I just walk into the police office and make a crime claim and get someone arrested? Doesn't it seem there was some effort to establish a viable case here before a charge was filed, especially since it says they all knew about this since September?Yeah, it amazes me how people think if you want to “support victims,” you have to assume guilt just because someone is charged. That’s antithetical to our legal values and basic morality, IMO.
The fact is, VERY few people - and I’d wager nobody on this board, even insiders - know if there is merit to the charge. The best we have is our legal system to try to get to the bottom of this, and until then it’s my firm belief Terence should be presumed innocent. That doesn’t mean this woman is “lying” or whatever; it just means she made a very serious claim, and we as a society have long ago decided such claims need to be proven. It’s not been proven, obviously.
The D.A. is always running for re-election, or for election to the next level up. See: Mike Nifong, Durham North Carolina, 2006.Douglas County Kansas DA running for reelection.
I recommend reading a little about this DA. Here is just a recent tidbit
Prosecutor asks panel to suspend Douglas County DA’s law license after day 3 of disciplinary hearing
The prosecutor handling a complaint against Douglas County DA Suzanne Valdez asked a disciplinary panel Wednesday to consider whether they believe the testimony of Valdez and her deputy, or that of the other 13 witnesses who testified.lawrencekstimes.com
Maybe “merit” isn’t the word I should have used - I meant we don’t know if this woman’s version of events are true/severe enough to convict Terence and label him legally as a sex offender … that’s a very serious thing. I’m not an expert on the law, but we were all in college once and I’ll bet anything a lot of alcohol was involved; my point is this might be a really gray area situation, Terence might be guilty or this might be a false charge. We just don’t know.Regarding merit of a charge, what is the threshold? Can I just walk into the police office and make a crime claim and get someone arrested? Doesn't it seem there was some effort to establish a viable case here before a charge was filed, especially since it says they all knew about this since September?
I agree but only if you say the same thing when it’s Brandon Miller or whichever other team’s star gets accused.Yeah, it amazes me how people think if you want to “support victims,” you have to assume guilt just because someone is charged. That’s antithetical to our legal values and basic morality, IMO.
The fact is, VERY few people - and I’d wager nobody on this board, even insiders - know if there is merit to the charge. The best we have is our legal system to try to get to the bottom of this, and until then it’s my firm belief Terence should be presumed innocent. That doesn’t mean this woman is “lying” or whatever; it just means she made a very serious claim, and we as a society have long ago decided such claims need to be proven. It’s not been proven, obviously.