Please elaborate on the meaning of BU demeanor? I mean it’s pretty clear and has been stated multiple times on here that people have a problem with mean ol’ Brad yelling, so just by conjecture alone one would assume this is your perception as well.
I will say again, if you don’t want yelled at there are 3 options:
1: play better
2: go elsewhere
3: stop playing
It is ridiculous to think that there are coaches out there that do not yell and/or talk sternly.
To be fair, different people excel better under different coaching styles. Some like myself performed best under strict no-nonsense coaches and performed worse with the so-called "players coaches". And others perform better with the opposite. And both styles have been very successful for teams and disastrous for other teams. It's that connection between the coach and players that's important. And if a potential recruit doesn't really feel that connection or doesn't quite jive with the coaching style of the coach he's being recruited by, I think it's actually a pretty mature decision for a kid at that age to say "no thank you" and it'll likely work best for both parties. And that's not saying that Brad can't be a great coach or developer of that player or that they couldn't excel under his tutelage, and it's not an indictment of the recruit's toughness or capabilities, or their willingness to put forth effort. All it is is a kid saying, I'm not sure this is the best fit for me and I think this other coach and I might have a better chance of getting the most out of me.
And really, that's the type of decision you'd want your kid to make at that age, right? If you think a certain school is a better for you academically than Illinois, you should go there (like Chasson Randle and Stanford per se), if you think a different coach/school will develop you better and give you a better potential chance for success professionally, you should go there, and if you think a coach along with his system and current roster gives you a better opportunity to not only maximize your improvement and development as a player, but also utilize you more optimally and give you a better chance to showcase your talents, I'd say go there as well.
In the end, so long as a kid says that they believe School A gives them better chances at long-term success combines with collegiate opportunities and that's why they chose to enroll there, it's difficult for me to argue against it.